How to Find The Right Therapist
BY BETHANY HEITMAN
If you’ve never been to therapy, the idea of it can be off-putting. Some people feel like they already know their issues and don’t need a therapist to tell them what’s wrong. Other people worry they’ll be judged or feel like talking about their baggage will open a can of worms.
These feelings are all completely understandable—after all, we’re often afraid of what we don’t know or understand. But, while it may be nerve-wracking to do something unfamiliar, the long-term benefits are worth it.. JW puts it best, saying, “Therapy should be looked at like a manicure for the mind!”
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Truly, a good therapist can act as a sounding board, help you navigate tricky situations and help feel more comfortable in your skin. But finding the right therapist for your particular needs is key. So, how do you find someone who is a good match? Honestly, it’s a bit like dating. You may need to meet with a few people before finding your perfect fit.
It’s also worth noting that more and more people have started seeing a therapist over the course of the pandemic, making therapy appointments tougher to get. These tips can help you find something you like—who will be able to fit you in.
Ask For a Referral
When you’re looking for a new hairstylist or trying to figure out what restaurant serves the best oysters, you turn to the people you know for suggestions. Consider doing the same when you’re seeking a therapist.
If you are comfortable with it, ask a friend. Your pals know and may have some insight on who you’ll mesh with. It’s possible they’ve seen someone in the past that they can recommend, or can ask their therapist for suggestions.
Another option is to ask your primary care physician or another doctor you feel close with. You don’t even have to tell them the reason you’re seeking help. Just say you’re considering therapy and would love to know if they know of anyone they think would be a fit for you.
The bonus of a referral is that a therapist may be more willing to take on a new client if it’s through a referral.
Look At Your Insurance Network
Therapy can be pricey, but many insurances will cover mental health help—at least partially! Call your provider to see what your benefits are.
If they do, ask for a list of providers within a certain radius of where you live. Research has shown that people are more likely to keep therapy appointments if they are relatively easy to commute to—so keep that in mind when reviewing the list.
Consider Online Therapy
Online therapy has become quite trendy over the past few years—and with good reason. First, it tends to be more cost-effective. It can also be easier to fit into a busy schedule and many people feel more comfortable opening up in their own home.
One online therapy service to check out: Betterhelp.com. This online mental health site gives you access to hundreds of online therapists. Think about who you may feel most comfortable with and start your online search based on that. For example, some people feel more comfortable with a certain gender or with someone who is a bit older.
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Don’t Be Afraid of Asking Questions
You aren’t going to benefit from therapy if you don’t feel comfortable with whoever you are speaking with. Before setting up an appointment, ask for a phone consultation. This will help you suss out if they’re a good fit.
Let them know why you are seeking out therapy and then ask a few questions that will help you decipher if they’re right for you. Here, two helpful questions to ask:
Can you go over your training with me? You are absolutely allowed to ask what qualifies them to be a therapist. Hearing their credentials may help you feel more sure of their ability to assist you.
What does treatment with you look like? This will fill you in on how they work. It’s a good idea to follow up with questions about how often they prefer to see patients, how they structure sessions and how they track progress.
Following these steps can help you find a therapist you connect with—which should make you feel more comfortable with the entire pursuit. And remember, you may not find the perfect fit on the first try. It is totally normal to meet with a few therapists before you find someone you feel comfortable with.
– By Bethany Heitman, Contributor
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